Sexual Compatibility
Sexual issues in a relationship can occur for a multitude of reasons. One partner may feel frequency of sex is a way to gauge how loved and valued they are, whilst the other partner may feel that intimacy is the benchmark. If a couple go off sex, it can be an indication of their attitude to love, trust and control. The problem may be about unsatisfying sex or their sexual problem way indicate a deeper underlying issue that needs to be discussed. |
Some couples experiencing sexual issues say:
· Sex is uncomfortable or painful for one partner· One or both partners have gone off sex, so it is no longer on the agenda,
· Disappointing Sex
· Sex causes rows and arguments between the couple
The causes of some sexual problems can be:
· Pregnancy· Ageing
· Low self confidence and self esteem
· Stress
· Betrayal or an affair(s)
· Physical (such as illness, drugs or alcohol)
Often couples experience these problems because they haven't had the opportunity to explore their own sexuality, and families often pass on negative attitudes and thoughts about sex which can cause distress in couples. Sometimes traumatic experiences can also effect a couples sex life, these experiences can emerge in current relationships, with trust and understanding these experiences can be overcome.
Sexual counselling can be highly effective in the treatment of sexual issues in a relationship. Family myths and taboos can be explored and be dismissed if appropriate. If sex used be a highlight of the relationship why has this changed? Has it always been disappointing? With trained help there is the opportunity to find the answer.
Counselling can help a couple explore their understandings of what sex means, and what they each expect from their relationship both physically and mentally. A couple can stop having sex when one partner has no other release for anger or disappointment, it can also be used to punish the other partner.
You can find out more information about how relationship counselling and sexual counselling could help you by visiting Counselling Directory. You can also search by your location to find a counsellor in your area.
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These are some important issues. Women often tell me that they have many 'unspoken' needs in relation to the bedroom, but they don't feel that they're able to talk to their partner about them. Getting everyone's needs, challenges and feelings out in a safe conversation is really important.
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