Guy's Unfaithful Marital Infidelity In A Sexless Marriage
Posted by UghMyLife:My problem is that for the last two months, I've been cheating on my wife. I don't say it with any pride, and I know it's a terrible thing to do. I still love her, and she's the greatest thing that's ever happened to me -- but the problem is, our marriage has been almost totally sexless for the last four years. We have been married for ten years, since we were both in our early 20s. We used to be having sex at least once a day, we were on totally the same wavelength, but since then she's slowly been dialing it back -- not in the mood, has a headache, too tired -- until we're at where we are today.
I'm lucky if we have sex once a month, and even then I know she doesn't even like doing it. There's nothing worse than looking in your partner's eyes and knowing that she's just *putting up* with your sexual needs. It used to be an intimate connection, something we shared, a special bond. But now it's a chore.
I got so sick of seeing that look in her eyes that I signed up for a website promising discreet Physical affairs. The site is called Ashley Madison; you may have heard of it. I signed up through this sales page, which promised me a 100% money back if I didn't have an affair. I was skeptical. Being with my wife so long has made me think that most women are just programmed not to want sex, that I was the bad guy, that there was no way I would ACTUALLY end up in an unfaithful intimate affair.
Having A Intimate Affair With A Woman I Hate
I NEED sex, it's probably my favorite experience in all of the earthly pleasures -- but I love my wife, and she isn't physically interested. On the other hand, the woman I'm having the affair with, while insatiable and hugely into me... I don't really like her that much. She's kind of annoying. I'm certainly not ending my marriage to be with her, that's for sure. So... what do I do? I don't even know. If I could, I would keep it at the status quo forever. But I know that going on like this has risks, and losing my marriage is unacceptable to me (although I know not all guys would feel that way in this position). Please help with whatever advice you can.
Cliff's notes:Have been married for 10 years, almost sexless for the last four. Signed up at a website promising a guaranteed affair or money back, thinking it was just a pipe dream that would never materialize. Now I'm stuck in a sexy affair with a woman I hate, and a sexless marriage with a woman I love. Need advice and help ASAP.

Posted by: PA Well, in my case I broke up with my girlfriend. Then I had a new girfriend. A few months later my ex-girlfriend wanted to get back together but I was unable to sexually perform for her. I was using Viagra with both ladies. I guess a guy has to have the sexual desire for intimate affair. It seems like a Performance anxiety problem.for me.
I have suspected my husband of cheating for quite a while now and I finally got the confirmation that he is definitely cheating on me. I am devastated. ...

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Successful marriage do require healthy sexual relation between the couple. I think the problem with you is you do not talk about this issue with your wife. I am sure she will understand if you open this up to her. If your marriage is worth saving, both of you should do something about it.
ReplyDeleteI don't understand this. Why would you look to have an affair instead of seeking out counseling? It seems if you wife was indeed the best thing to happen to you then the right thing to do would be to fix the relationship that is falling apart. Is she taking medication for depression or on birth control as these things can really dampen a woman's sex drive.
ReplyDeleteMy wife had taken the Depo Provera and it just killed her sex drive. There are so many things you could do to improve your relationship but having an affair isn't one of them. Perhaps this has happened for a reason and maybe going to see someone who can help will actually bring your relationship with your wife to a whole new level.
This isn't something which only you experience. It is estimated that over 15% of couples live in sexless relationships. But if you really want to get the sex back into your marriage, you must look deeper to find the real cause.
ReplyDeleteGut instinct is telling you something is wrong, your husband/wife has withdrawn, is working late or maybe he/she has lost interest in sex. If you have suspicions of another man or woman it pays to pay attention to that nagging feeling that something just isn't right in the marriage.
ReplyDeleteUnder the law, the grounds or conditions for cheating is still punishable.
ReplyDeleteI agree with it all. I condemn cheating as well.
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